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March 07' Self-Improvement Letter |
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Dear <%NAME%>, how is your train moving? Remember pushing the train from the February issue? Is it starting to move? We've recently (over the past few months) been covering topics that deal with goal setting and important components that revolve around it. Today we deal with our emotional states of being. Become a manager What do I mean by become a manager?
Let's look at this analogy. A manager of an apartment building will
constantly fix and keep things in check. If the building gets
dirty he will hire a cleaning crew. If Mrs. Jones from Apt. #4 calls her
about her plumbing he will call Joe's Plumbing Service. Let's say the
grass in the front of the building is getting a little high...he calls Jim the
gardener. In essence, his job is to make sure that things are working
smoothly, that things get fixed when they break and to make sure to take
preventative measures so that electrical, plumbing or structural catastrophes
don't occur. The same is true of us. We have to be managers of our emotional states, because here's a truth that you'll be able to relate to: "If you don't manage your emotions, your emotions will manage you." How true isn't it? If you are going to complete a goal (especially a big one) you must be in constant check of your emotional state. In other words, if you're in the process of working on or completing a goal and you're depressed...how effective are you going to be? If you are angry because of any given situation....where is most of you're energy going to go? If you feel stuck...what will get done? You see, when these emotions are present and lingering....our goal idles and doesn't move forward. You don't have to stop being human. So what does it mean to become a manager...does it mean that we give up all emotions and become robots? Of course not! You can feel all of the emotions but how long are you going to or willing to hold on to them? It's not the negative emotions themselves that are bad....it's the lingering of them that are destructive. If negative emotions like sadness, anger, fear, worry are constant they will give you an excuse to not move forward in your life. Most of us cannot afford that luxury. I recently saw an amazing movie named Equilibrium. It's about a society that survived a 3rd world nuclear war. They decided that human emotions were the root of all evil and so they tried to eradicate human emotions by having all of society constantly take medication to suppress emotions. They had special "sense" offender police that would kill people that tried to muster emotions by music, art and pastel colors. The result was disastrous. The government became cold blooded and human life lost it's value. We don't have to become suppressors of our emotions (after all, it's part of what makes us human) rather learn how to channel or release the emotion once it is ignited so that it doesn't consume or overcome you. In this way, they won't get in the way of our goals and we can reach the success of our goals sooner. Practice Letting Go..... One way to let go of emotions is to release
them. Releasing them has several steps that you can take to channel out
the excessive build-up of turbulent energy that forms as a result of stuff
happening. Technique #1 Step 1: Feel the emotion. We have a tendency to suppress negative emotions because we'd rather not feel them. You're aim here is to feel them in order to let them go. The less you fear them and the more you bring up, the more you let go. Step 2: Know where your feelings are
manifesting. Feelings have a tendency to manifest in the center part
of our body (the stomach or chest). If you are aware of where it is...you
will know what and where to let go of. To become aware of where they are,
simply bring your attention to the central area of your body and feel for any
tightness, squeezing or discomfort. Technique #2 Step 1: Become aware of what you are feeling. Some people may be upset and push it away so deeply that they don't even realize that they are. So again, become aware of what feeling is coming up for you. Step 2: Create a radical movement. This is an amazing technique that will change any state instantly. You see, your brain is used to habits. If you are used to reacting in a certain way to certain situations, the brain will learn this response and you will automatically respond in this manner most of the time. On it's own, the brain or subconscious will not change it a response once it has learned it, so you have to make a conscious effort to retrain yourself. However, if you are really upset (or any other neg. emotion) at something and you create a radical movement like clap your hands hard and fast, or jump up and down, or begin to laugh loudly (even if it's not a real laugh) your brain will have an instant pattern interrupt. It's like creating a short circuit, and the emotion will shift immediately. You can then focus your attention on something more positive which will shift your attention from the negative to a positive emotion. Practice these techniques and see which one suits you best. You may (as I do) use them interchangeably. As you learn to manage your emotional states you will notice that not only does your ability to do and complete goals become easier but life goes smoother as well. Let me know how it goes. |
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